That's a confession, if you like. There's pride and self-sufficiency wrapped up in a lack of trust that has left me over the course of a lifetime in a perpetual state of affection falling just short of love in even the best of my interactions with others. More often than not, my care for my neighbor has been a vague societal politeness, and even that is more a reflection of the kind people who have surrounded and upheld me throughout my life than any kind of real conviction. Despite all the wonderful things that have come into my life and everything I can be said to have accomplished, through hardness of heart or isolation of mind, I missed out on the most important and life-giving lesson a person can learn. I do not know how to love others as I ought.
I have a suspicion that that might be true for most of us. We may stumble into love in our relationships and friendships and may even succeed in offering love to strangers as we move about the world in our daily lives, but real, intentional, continual love offered to our neighbors (and let me be clear: every human is your neighbor) is something with which we all struggle, I think. And in this season of transition and uncertainty and concern, we could all love better. So this year, in addition to talking less (and I do realize the irony of that statement when I'm three paragraphs into a weekly blog post), I'm going to reflect each day on how I loved those around me. I'm going to use that chapter from 1 Corinthians that everyone uses at weddings because it's surprisingly cutting when you turn each verse into a question.
So, if you want to join me, plan a few minutes at the end of each day to ask yourself:
- Were you patient with everyone you met today? Were you kind?
- Or were you envious, boastful, arrogant, or rude? Did you insist on your own way? Were you irritable or resentful today?
- Did you rejoice in any instance of wrongdoing today, or did you rejoice in the truth?
- What did you bear today? What did you believe today? What did you hope for today? What did you endure today?
- Did you pursue love today?
But wherever you are in your walk or in your lives, whatever you've come to believe, let me implore you to love better, friends.
It might be the only way we make it out of this.
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